February 2, 1987
Recorder
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to unforeseen legal inquires. She was
able to talk to the group through a
conference telephone call placed during
Rollo’s presentation.
Call for women’s ordination
During the Association’s annual busi-
ness meeting the final day of the confer-
ence, delegates approved an appeal to
the North American Division leadership
calling for the ordination of women to
the gospel ministry.
The four-point motion called on church
leaders—
To take a clear position in support
of ordaining women to the gospel mini-
stry.
To educate the North American Church
through articles, camp meeting presenta-
tions and other forums.
To educate the leadership of the world
church regarding the necessity and ap-
propriateness of of this action.
And to meet with the Association
of Adventist Women at the Fifth An-
nual Conference (scheduled for October
8 to 11, 1987, in Takoma Park,
Maryland) by way of sharing actions
taken and discussing ways in which the
Association can assist in this education
process.
Within the body of the motion, dele-
gates pointed out that women have been
enrolled in pre-seminary studies, semi-
Mary Elizabeth Moore, associate pastor
of theology at the Claremont School
of Theology, was the conference’s key-
note speaker. She warned against believ-
ing that problems for women in the
church would be over when ordina-
tion of women was achieved.
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House vour heart?
with Dr. Kay Kuzma
Filling love cups
Do you sometimes feel empty and
wish someone would give you a little
love and attention. Well, the answer
might be to first give some love
away.
Mindy knew her husband didn’t
like overweight women—Ileast of all
an overweight wife. But try as she
would she just couldn’t lose those
ugly pounds.
Mindy was aware her husband
didn’t like her fat. He had subtle
ways to let her know. For example,
when she would snuggle up in bed,
he often just turned over and went
to sleep. Or he would make a point
of noticing other women and com-
menting on their slim figures.
Finally he spoke up. This is how
it happened.
Mindy was a good homemaker
and loved to cook. She prepared
beautiful meals and occasionally even
made bread. If only she had one
of those mixers that kneaded the
dough. She knew the budget could
never stand this luxury item, but
she asked her husband anyway.
““Honey, do you think we could
get a bread mixer?’
“I'll. make a deal with you,’
he bargained. “‘If you lose weight,
I'll get you a mixer.”’
A year went by. No weight lost.
And no mixer. Plus, a stagnant, devi-
talized marriage.
Then at a God’s Woman Seminar,
Mindy learned about the love-cup
principle. The idea 1s that if another
person 1s unloving, it may be be-
cause his own love cup is empty
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Dr. Kay Kuzma is a noted child
development specialist and author
of more than a dozen books. Cur-
rently she is president of Parent
Scene, Inc., and speaker of its daily
syndicated radio broadcast.
and he has nothing to give. Fill
that person up first, and when he
1s full and overflowing, chances are
that he will be loving, too.
Mindy decided to make a list of
all the reasons she loved her hus-
band. She put 15 things on the list,
and when her husband got home,
she asked him to sit down, gave him
something refreshing to drink and
told him the 15 reasons she loved
him.
Her husband sat silently listening
and then at the end smiled and asked,
“Is that all?”’
‘Oh, no,’ she said quickly think-
ing of a few more reasons. And
then he got up and went to his desk,
shuffling through some papers. Noth-
ing like this had happened in their
marriage for a long time—and he
just didn’t know how to respond.
But later that afternoon he called
to Mindy. ‘Oh, Mindy, I’ve decided
I should go down to the bank and
arrange for the financing to get the
jeep fixed, and while I'm there I
might as well get enough money for
that bread mixer that you’ve been
wanting.’ It was his way of saying,
““Mindy, I love you, t00.”’
And you know the result? Mindy
has lost three pounds every week
for the last four weeks—even with
mouth-watering loaves of fresh home-
baked bread in the kitchen.
What can we learn from Mindy’s
story? Just this. When you feel un-
loved and your life seems empty,
it’s time to start reaching out to
others. And in the process of filling
others with love, the chances are
much greater that love will be poured
back into your life in ways that you
might least expect.
Practice the love-cup principle and
make sure the love cups of everyone
you live with are filled to overflow-
ing!